If you do not want to be a part of the problem, then do not join in. Joining in another’s chaos, only sucks you into their mess. Making things even messier. It is always best to be the bigger person and not add to it. If it is a problem that needs to be addressed, do so with the same grace in which we have been given from God.  Friend, it is so easy and tempting to retaliate when people are wrong, have wronged us or a loved one. Though at times we must address certain issues, doing so with anger, does not solve anything. It only adds more damage to what is already in need of repair. Family’s, friendships, coworkers or even people we just meet and do not agree with; how we respond to the problem with them, has the potential to make things bitter, or better. Sometimes we need to speak love into the situation, sometimes we need to walk away, pray, let go and let God address it. Fury leaves a disastrous path; love calms the storm. Friend, my hope is that we choose not to add to problems, but to make them better by the way we handle them. I am grateful that God handled me with grace and love, as there were times, I was the problem. I am better because God handled me with care and love. May we do the same for one another. A problem multiplied, is a bigger problem. A problem handled with love, is a lesser one. May we go out every day and not be the problem, but help give a solution to it, by offering His love.

Erin Fitts-Brower

Psalm 37:8 NIV

Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret-it leads only to evil.

Proverbs 15:1 NIV

A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.

Romans 12:19 NIV

Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord.

Leviticus 19:18 NIV

“Do not seek revenge or bear a grudge against anyone among your people, but love your neighbor as yourself. I am the LORD.

Ephesians 4:31-32 NIV

Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.